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He died, and I wasn't there...

Updated: Jan 8, 2022

I am sad to share that my dear beloved friend died on Sunday 29th August at 16.45

Sadly I was not with him at the time, I was in Devon, getting ready to drive back to be with him. Thankfully our dear friend Chandra was with him for his final hours.

it was a shock to receive this news even though I knew it was coming..

When I arrived, it was clear that I was looking at an empty vessel. My beloved friend had upped and flown away in the vast expanse. I sat with him and placed my hand on his heart, it was still warm.

After a time, with the support of another friend, I lovingly washed his face, arms, hands and feet in a final act of love and respect to my beloved friend.

Then we called the Funeral Director who arrived at 11.15 pm and were so kind and respectful, explaining what they were doing, each step of the way., as they wrapped his body in a white shroud and placed him on the trolley, and then they were gone.

I am so thankful that I had the time and space to sit and be with his body, it felt so supportive to process what had happened, the Home was very respectful and accommodating with this.

I am also grateful to have pre-arranged to appoint the Funeral Directors a few weeks before, it made it so much easier not to be panicking trying to find a funeral director on a Sunday night when in the midst of shock and grief.

Our beloved friend is now out of the pain of which there was so much these last weeks and months, it is a complete blessing to know this but still as painful as hell as I grieve the loss of my dear friend.

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Thank you so much for taking the time to read, I hope you found this helpful

Mala x

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